I first went to a SlutWalk three years ago in Hollywood, which consisted of about 100 people, a march around a few blocks and then a final gathering in a rec center with bands, information and a self-defense class for women. Fast forward to 2015 and a celebrity is hosting the event and bringing in hundreds of supporters, not to mention bringing a great deal of attention to a woman's right to dress sexy without being assaulted, harassed or disrespected. Amber says she was inspired to create this event after her ex-boyfriend, rapper Kanye West, publicly said his wife Kim Kardashian wanted him to take 30 showers after dating her. Amber pointed out that her and Kim are both victims of slut-shaming and come from similar backgrounds and are judged for similar reasons.
The day before the event AmberRose had an intimate press conference that I was able to attend. This was my first press conference, and I wasn't sure what to expect. I thought it would be a big room where journalists struggle to get their question in. Instead, three of us were seating in a small circle right with her. Cameras and event organizers were all surrounding us. At the time I had no idea what the cameras were for, but I now know that it's part of a TV show that Amber is creating which is based around SlutWalk.
I took my place in a chair right next to her and then the first journalist came right out with his question asking when the first time she remembered being slut-shamed was. It was a brutal story that made me gasp when I realized where it was going. She recounts the event:
"I was fourteen. I was still a virgin. I had just started making out with boys at that age. [My friends and I were playing] Seven Minutes in Heaven, where you have a group of friends and two people go in the closet and make out.
So I was kissing this boy, and he was like “can you just get down on your knees.” I was like “why?” He was like “just get down, I wanna show you something.” So I was like “Okay, so I get down on my knees and he opens the door. It’s pitch black in the closet, so I don’t really know what’s going on. He opens the door and all his friends and all my friends are there, and he has his penis out.
And I’m looking at them and I swear I remember it like it was yesterday. I had no idea what was going on until I really went to school. I kinda looked at him and saw his penis was out. I looked at my friends and they were like “Oh my god.” and i was like “What’s going on? I was so oblivious. I didn’t even understand what was going.
Then I went to school and I was the school slut -- completely. I remember going home and crying and going, “this is so unfair. I didn’t even do anything wrong. And that was extremely devastating. I wanted to switch schools. It was just a horrible moment for me."